In a hilarious post making the Facebook rounds, BuzzFeed asked their staffers to share “the wrongest thing they thought about sex.” We thought it would be amazing to do the same thing with our staff!
Each year we train hundreds of sex educators in North Carolina. One of our most popular trainings is called Awkward to Awesome – a bootcamp on how to teach sex ed. It covers everything from basic reproductive anatomy to a primer on birth control methods to how to answer the craziest question a 7th-grader can lob.
So, in part, BuzzFeed’s viral post looks a lot like our day-to-day. We grew up with similar misconceptions, but we became the trainers of teachers. Those teachers grew up with myths, but they now have to provide medically accurate sex ed. And a whole new generation of young people is walking around with some of their own wrongest ideas.
In part, believing funny falsehoods about sex - later to learn otherwise - is just part of growing up. But how can you process how a condom works if you think a man ejaculates for the duration of sex? Why would you use birth control if peeing after sex prevents a pregnancy? Our job is to build up a North Carolina that can help young people replace their myths with safe, accurate, helpful information about sex, reproduction, and their bodies.
So, here are the wrongest things APPCNC staffers believed about sex (and now obviously know better)!
1. Sex is a laying down hug between two people
2. I thought sex happened “hot dog in a bun” style
3. You could see a boy’s penis moving around inside your stomach during sex
4. If you pee after you have sex, you can’t get pregnant. (Also, sex standing up = no babies!)
5. Sex only happens on wedding nights
6. We (females) only have two holes
7. Friends told me a penis looks like a ponytail
8. I thought tampons would get lost in my vagina if I pushed too far
9. I thought if I went swimming on my period it would stop the flow
10. When I was very young, I thought maxi pads were designed to write cool stuff on and stick on your wall – and then pull them off. (Clearly I had older sisters.)
11. Wearing a maxi pad would make you get your first period. Maxi pads are really perplexing to kids.
12. I was the only girl curious about sex. Sexual curiosity was just for boys.
13. If I didn’t “think gay thoughts” – then it meant that I wasn’t gay.
14. I thought female orgasms were just something "Cosmo" made up – like flat abs in 4 days.
And just to cap it off... Here are 5 questions we've gotten from young people this month. Proof that young people still - even in the age of Google - need a lot of help getting accurate info about sex.
I can't get pregnant if I have sex in a hot tub.
You can contract ‘blue waffle disease’ as an STD.
I’m only in puberty from 10 to 12 – right?
I can’t get an STD if I have unprotected anal sex and I’m a woman.
Can I get pregnant if I pee after sex?